Having a positive outlook when things get tough can be difficult sometimes. I have often been asked that how do you mange to be so positive all the time. Well, I won’t say I’m 100% with my positivity. I too have my ups and downs like any other normal or celebrated person have. But yes, whenever life throws me into some negative circumstances, I make sure to come back even more stronger.
What are negative situations basically?
Well, the definition of negative situation stands different for everyone depending upon their circumstances. But just stop, and think – the situation that is currently disturbing you is actually a negative one? Or is it just your thoughts which is making it look negative? Often times, we make a mountain of a mole-hill – a big terrifying mountain out of our own thoughts. If you’re doing that, you need to stop, take a deep breath and refocus appropriately.
Remember, our problem is not the problem, but our reaction is. Buddha says – Learn to respond the situations instead of reacting. If you instantly make the judgements and conclusions out of any situation, then my dear – problem is with you. You need to learn the art of responding the situation. Based on the below two, find out which one stands for you –
Reaction – It is an instant and defensive response to any situation without being thoughtful. When we say something without being thoughtful, that’s the unconscious mind running the show. It does not consider the long term effects of what we say or do, but is based on temporary survival only. A reaction provokes more reactions.
Response – A response on the other hand, comes slowly, calmly and thoughtfully. It is based on the information from both the conscious and unconscious mind. A response does not only consider the well being of yours, but everyone around you too. And most importantly, it is based on long term effects.
In this blog, I’m sharing some strategies which I have learned from my hard times. These strategies have always helped me to embrace the positive side of life. And I hope this will definitely help my lovely readers too –
1. Give rest to your thoughts
The first thing you must do during negative situations is to please give a break to your thoughts. Continuous flow of negative thoughts can makes you feel even more tired, exhausted and frustrated. So before you jump into any kind of decisions, make sure your mind is calm. Take 7-8 hours of sleep to rejuvenate your mind and practice meditation to attain calm from your running thoughts.
Exercising helps to improve your physical and mental health by releasing happy hormones in your body. Working out doesn’t always mean that you need to hit the gym and lift weights. You can do anything to move your body – Be it walking, running, swimming, cycling or whatever you love. Exercising helps to make you feel better, confident and deal positively with every emotion.
3. Focus on Solutions instead of Problems
Often times, the biggest mistake that we make is that we waste a lot of time and energy thinking about our problems. See, a simple trick here is to let go whatever has happened, it’s perfectly ok that things doesn’t always work our way. So, instead of focusing on your problem, analyze the circumstances and find out the possible solutions. Remember, there is a key to every lock.
4. Surround yourself with positive people
The type of people you spend most of your time with have a huge influence on the way you feel and think. Negative people are the real soul suckers and their mere presence is enough to give you negative vibes. So make sure to surround yourself with people who makes you feel happy, positive and good about yourself.
5. Add positivity to someone’s life
Okay, so many of you would be thinking how to add positivity in other’s lives while we are struggling for our own. But trust me, this practice will not only add positivity into your life, but will give satisfaction to your soul too. Practice an act of kindness everyday. Just go and listen someone whole heartedly, help someone, give a hug to someone or compliment someone. Do whatever you can do to bring a smile on someone’s face.
6. Don’t take things personally
Remember, what others do is not always for you. Sometimes, we create negativity in our life out of our own jealousy or hatred. Taking things personally can be emotionally and mentally draining. It can lower you self esteem and can develop insecurities within you. Instead of focusing on others, focus on your own self and get your life together.
If you’re reading this, start making change from now and add some positivity in your life. Think about the top three people who always helps to bring the best out of you and call any one of them.